Saturday, July 4, 2020

unspoken

birthdays to me are just a reminder of how unimportant i am 
it is a day that brings back painful memories 

. . . 

like most people
i used to be excited for my birthday
i definitely was, when i was in secondary 2

everyone who had their birthdays before me that year
were surprised with cake and gifts 
with the whole group staying back after school for them 
to spend the day celebrating with them

i thought mine would be the same 

but no

people did wish me a happy birthday
but that was all

after school
everyone packed their bags
and headed home 

i thought it was all part of their plan

but no

i remember having a proposal to submit that day
after school, for my cca 
seeing everyone leave 
i begged one or two of them to stay 
to go submit the proposal with me
but no one wanted to
and they all left for home 

i remember holding back my tears 
as i walked to the staff room 
but as i headed home 
i struggled to do so 
and a few of them fell 

i hid in my room and cried that whole afternoon
i wanted to die 
but somehow i didn't 

. . .

when i was in secondary 3
i had a new group of friends 
i thought things would be different

but no 

similarly, people wished me a happy birthday
but that was all

recess that day 
i was hungry 
but no one else was 
and they did not want to head down for lunch

again, i begged 
for one or two of them to head down with me
but no one wanted to 

so i headed down alone 
ordered my lunch
and sat alone to eat 

as if things weren't bad enough 
someone else in school shared the same birthday as me

he had a group of friends with him 
who started singing happy birthday for him
the whole canteen cheered
as they sang along

holding back my tears 
i finished my food
headed to the toilet 
where i sat down and cried
i wanted to die
but somehow i didn't

then i headed back to the classroom
as though nothing had happened 

. . . 

thankfully
things got better from secondary 4 on

but those memories linger
and return every year

but i guess that's a good thing
reminding me not to have any expectations
lest i get disappointed 

i guess